Monday, August 23, 2010

When it rains it pours...

I'm very big on God speaking to us through other people, situations, etc. I went to visit my mother's grave for the for time by myself yesterday. I was very nervous, but glad that I went. This is her gravemarker, it was the first time that I'd seen it since it had been done about a month ago.


In addition, I found out recently that a former classmate of mine died in a car accident. Her funeral was this past Saturday. I was very sad to hear of her death. She was a very sweet spirit and I felt like I'd just seen her recently. Between that and the visit to my mother's grave, I have been very reflective. I had a car accident a couple of months ago and survived. I'd been saying that God must have some big plans for me, because the other driver left me for dead. I have been feeling a little overwhelmed lately and decided in an effort to gather myself, I'd treat myself to a staycation. Upon entering my hotel room, I noticed that the faucet in the bathroom was running...I went to it and tried to turn it off, but it just kept going. I couldn't find the proper position to make it stop leaking. I'd eaten what I bought for dinner, but a few hours later, I found myself hungry again and decided to walk to the Ruby Tuesdays nearby. I ordered a Patron margarita and everything I thought that I wanted to eat. As I looked at the bill surprised that I'd spent so much on just me eating. I was grateful. That I had the money to purchase whatever I wanted. Not to long ago, there was a time when I was eating Ramen noodles everyday. Purposefully walking back to my room, I walked past The Art Institute of Atlanta. I was intrigued by the window displays, the fabrics and the mannequins...the sign that read "
Fashion & Retail Management." Anyone who knows me knows that I LOVE fashion and it has been my dream since childhood to be a fashion designer. I visited with a friend yesterday who gave me the book, "The Dreamgiver" by Bruce Wilkinson. I feel like all of this is a sign. My dream came to me again for a reason. Now, "Night at the Roxbury" is on, reminding me of my dream to be a club owner. On the way back, I looked up, and noticed there was a full moon. I walked back to my room and once again looked at the leaking faucet. It wasn't just dripping. It was pouring out of the faucet. For some reason I looked at it and felt like it was a metaphor for my life. God is pouring so much positivity into my life. I am incredibly sad in my life, because I miss my mother so much. However, that leaky faucet was a sign to me that God hasn't left me and He will continue to pour a blessing into my life....Thank God! Amen.


Friday, August 13, 2010

Patsy Smith Owens Celebration of Life

Pat Owens, 66, devoted volunteer to library, school  | ajc.com

Pat Owens, 66, devoted volunteer to library, school | ajc.com

Patsy Smith Owens April 6, 1943-December 28, 2009

OWENS, Patsy Mrs. Patsy Smith Owens, of Decatur, departed this life on Monday, December 28, 2009, following an extended illness. She was born April 6, 1943, in Franklin County. The only child of Mr. Albert Smith and Mrs. Johnelle Thomas Smith. Mrs. Owens retired from the U.S. Postal Service and served as a Job Steward and Director of Human relations for the Local 32 of the American Postal Workers Union for a number of years. She also was an active leader in her East Atlanta and Ormewood Park Communities. Funeral services for Mrs. Patsy Smith Owens, will be held Saturday, January 2, 2010; 1:00 P.M. at Salem Missionary Baptist Church 4700 Church Street, N.W. Lilburn. Rev. Dr. Richard B. Haynes, Pastor, Officiating. The remains will be placed in state at 11:00 A.M. Interment Alta Vista Cemetery Gainesville. She leaves to mourn one son, Dennis Owens, Jr., of Buffalo, NY; two daughters, Karen Smith Haynes, of Lawrenceville and Heather Brooke Owens, of Decatur; five grandchildren, Amanda Haynes-Ford and Valerie Ann Haynes, of Lawrenceville, Demarcus Owens, of Atlanta, Isaiah Owens and Anthony Owens, of Buffalo, NY; three great grandchildren, Destiny Haynes, Xavier Ford, and Makenna Ford, of Lawrenceville; and a host of other relatives and friends.


Misery

I used to love listening to my thoughts,
Until they filled with you
And you're gone...
My angel on earth and now in heaven
I used to love being unpredictable until it became predictable
Now what am I supposed to do with me?
U were my counselor, whether I listened or not,
My rock, my best friend, my strength
And now I have to discern the real from the fake when they all seem unreal next to you
How am I supposed to live life without you?
Your smile was the reason the sun rose and set
I was only playing when I said no grandkids, dang...could've given me a few more years to figure out life...
I keep telling myself it's bittersweet, I'm glad she's not suffering...which is true...
But now I am...

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Say What?


So, apparently looks are everything. I would think in the midst of our current "recession" people would take their jobs a little more seriously. I am currently in the market for a new (well another) vehicle. My best friend has been helping me with the process of looking. He scooped me yesterday, so that we could go out and look at some cars. When he was trying to decide what to change into, he jokingly said "Maybe I should put on a 3-piece suit." To which I replied, "Why would you do that? It's 1,000 degrees outside." He opted for a nice tee, jeans, sneakers and a baseball cap. Before I go too far, let me create a visual: Him-brown-skin, 5'10, dread locks a little past his shoulders, dressed in the aforementioned attire. Myself-brown-skin, 5'6, short short black hair that's hot pink on top, a basic v neck sundress and flip flops. In my defense, we hadn't planned to go look at cars when I left my house, so I didn't change.

We arrived at the first dealership, misled by a Ford Fusion that said "$4, 667" in big bright letters. Only to discover that in tiny letters next to it there were the letters "off". We were walking to the car to double check the price when we were chased down by a salesman. He steered me to a 2002 Ford Taurus, 41,000 miles, they wanted $5,900. Best friend talked me into the test-driving it. I could live with it, but I didn't particularly LOVE it, so we took the man's information and went on to another lot.


We looked first for the used car lot, parked, and waited to see who would come out first. As we exited the car, a salesman on the way back into the building shot me a quick "Wassup?" with a head nod up like he was my homeboy. To which I replied "Hi." I'm grown, are you not at work? We start to randomly walk through the lot, checking out the price range and variety of the cars. Here comes Lil Darryl...At first glance, I thought he was being funny and pimp walking out to us, until I realized that he was apparently disabled and had a legitimate limp. Although, I am willing to bet that he has learned to play it off.
"Whatchall looking for? Sump en bout ten fif-teen thousand?" Bestie replies, "Nah, lower, y'all have anything about $5k?" Salesman "Nah, partner we got that Taurus out there (yes, another Taurus) for bout $6k, that's the closest you gone get." Now, I'm staring at him trying to figure out why he's so comfortable talking to us like that. My friend thanks him to which dude replies "Aight den folk" and walks away. Of course observant me noticed that he has a big burn hole in the back of his pants. I'm trying to figure out how he got the job! And, how was he at work all day with a hole in his pants, talking to customers. Sigh...

To the next dealership...We find the used car lot and get out. Here comes Carl. He looks a bronzy peach color like he'd been in Florida in the sun on the beach for the past 30 days non-stop. He introduces himself, he's extra excited to see us and promises to send out the used car rep. Out comes Paul. He sashays his way over to us. I'm watching him confused because he had on a baseball cap and silver tinted aviator shades (although it's overcast), and he never took them off while speaking to us. We tell him what we're looking for, he says "You should try a Mom and Pop dealership, because all of our stuff is at least $10k." All of his words were slurred, but I was convinced that it was not a speech impediment, but that Paul may have been a little tipsy. Apparently their dealership had just opened in that location yesterday, which explained every one's overly cheerful disposition. But I am afraid that Paul may have had one too many.

To the next dealership. This one was my favorite. The Nissan dealership. Everyone knows I LOVE Nissans! I've never driven anything but Nissan Cars. Out walks Anthony. Anthony is QUITE the character. At first, he's talking to my bestie. I say nothing. I know salesmen pitch differently to women. First he tries to sell him a Z. *rolls eyes* I suppose we were looking Fancy to him...They talk as a glance over a Murano again...LOVE that car. We circle the lot getting a feel for what they have and the prices. Anthony doesn't miss a beat...I feel like I can't even talk because one, he won't shut up and two, he interjects like he HAS to be part of our dialogue. Best friend points out that one of the cars needs some work. Anthony flips the script on us! All of a sudden he has thick New York accent, I am giving him the side eye staring in disbelief..."Yeah, you know what I'm saying they be slacking down there in detailing. I be having to get on them sometimes. You know you tell me what you want, I handle alldat for you. You know what I'm saying? I be like 'Yo! My mans said he want it like this! Handle dat, B!'" Now I'm laughing out loud, because Anthony doesn't know me or my friend from a can of paint! I am sooooo glad and he should be glad, that neither of us were the person who signs his paychecks! Is this what customer service has been relegated to? Bestie is on the phone talking to someone about a car, and so Anthony goes in for the kill. "So miss, what you looking for? I saw you eyeing that Murano. You look like a convertible type girl." I'm giving him the look as I construct my reply in my head. After a few seconds I reply "He's the decision maker, I'll get whatever he buys." To which he replies "Yeah, I know" (how could he know, because that was such a lie) he goes on "but you seem like you might be able to persuade him in a certain direction if you see something you like." I probably made a face, in my head I know I did, before replying, "No, he's pretty stubborn to negotiate with, but thanks." Poor little me...Bestie ends his phone call and eyes to me "You ready?" I nod yes and Anthony is still talking although we are not, "So,what's the best number to reach you, just in case I find something real fly for y'all I can give you a call?" Bestie offers his information and we're allowed to leave. Wow...lol

When I started my first job, we were told that people who worked for the company would come in plain clothes and buy things from us, just to check out our customer service. You could be fired instantly, if you didn't handle something properly. So, I learned early the value of the customer experience. I find more often in a variety of establishments, that unfortunately, customer service is lacking. Why is that? People are still spending their money! I'm one of those funny people that won't buy anything from your store if you don't speak to me first. You NEVER know who you're talking to. That dressed down person may or may not be the person who signs your paychecks. When did people stop being professional? I know Anthony doesn't interact with Caucasian customers that same way he interacted with us. I was very offended. We are both highly intelligent people. What is the world coming to?